"Tell us something about yourself"- Take it from me that is the most difficult question one can face in an interview and if it is a stress interview like the one I had few days back it can be a real pain. People waiting to pounce on you as you try and describe yourself. We are so good at describing others. If 'we' is interpreted as Indians criticism is in our blood and we can go for hours talking about others. Now ask yourself-"Do I really know me??
Human beings discover the most important secret of their lives the day they get to know themselves. Truth is none of us know ourselves at all. Yes, we have a distinct opinion about ourselves which if questioned can be shaken till the very root. And in the quest of knowing and not-knowing ourselves we start creating the image of us in our minds and so much so that we are living in a virtual world today with little idea of what we are becoming and we have got avenues to define ourselves and create the virtual us.. Enter Facebook.
Ever wondered why the girl who looked so undoubtedly attractive in her FB display picture looks astoundingly different in life(By which I mean she has no attraction quotient) . Ever wondered why his girlfriend likes everything that he posts including all the pathetic shares and the worst of his photographs??? People have now a wonderful medium to show who they are actually not. In fact it won't be wrong to say that today's generation lives two lives-one in real life and another online. Trying to fulfill their unfulfilled ambitions of some form.
These days before a couple breaks up they block themselves on facebook/G-talk. Friends "un-friend " their so-called "friends" after a fight and one fine day the sun shines and they are friends again. Is this real??People somehow have grown to believe that what they show and behave in the online medium reflects their real selves but they are mistaken! It is making us what we ought not to be.
I agree that the world no doubt has become unreal and what you can show on paper counts more than what you can show for yourself. But never expected relationships going the same way! People pretending to be someone they are not. What is astonishing is people are defining their relationships through social networking sites and believing that is real. The immaturity people show is beyond comprehension at times.
Even I have a virtual me. The corporate world grinds you in a way that the same on-the-face 'me' tries to be diplomatic. The same 'me' which is so flamboyant keeps a low profile owing to circumstances. But the virtual 'me' which exists online is not the real me. I would have serious doubts in calling all the 'friends' I have in Facebook as my friends! For me friendship lies in the real me and my friends are there in a special place.
Solution?? Get offline for a while. Spend some time with your real friends. Then again you can fake yourself but atleast that 'faking part' will be the real you and you get a chance to understand who you are!
